Love Life: Why jilted Kenyan wives kill stingy men
3 weeks ago, 10:08
I hope the recent ruling about the division of property after divorce in Kenya has put things into perspective for the young women in Kenya who still think that getting married is a viable long-term financial plan.
The judge decided that financial contribution is the only kind of contribution that can be recognized when deciding how assets will be divided after divorce. Let me reiterate: after a couple splits up, each partner will walk away with the share of what they contributed.
Personally, I think it’s a tad ridiculous and not well thought out. You know why? Quite a number of modern African men still hold dear our traditional wife-husband roles and will encourage their women to abandon their careers to be homemakers as they take on all the responsibilities as providers.
Other women leave their careers on their own volition after realising that they can’t juggle between being a mum and being a working woman and hence decide to leave their jobs to take of their little ones full time.
Even if a woman had no career aspirations whatsoever when she got married but she spent her prime years with a man, building a home with him and raising his children, isn’t it a little bit excessive to think that she is not entitled to anything simply because she is did not contribute to anything financially? Can you imagine spending 15 or 20 years being a dutiful wife and mother and for whatever reason, the marriage collapses and you are expected to walk out with nothing because you did not contribute to anything financially?
I was trying to imagine myself in that scenario. Let’s say I’ll get married at thirty and decide to be a stay at home mum. After two children and 20 years of marriage, my husband and I decide to split up. Let’s assume that my children are geniuses who are already self-sufficient and hence don’t require financial support.
They have already moved out and are out there happily globe-trotting or whatever therefore I will not be asking for any child support. After the split, my husband throws me out without a dime because I did not ‘contribute to anything’.
I am now a 50-year-old woman expected to start from scratch! Even if I have the necessary credentials, I doubt that there will be any companies eager to hire a granny. Can you imagine how difficult it would be especially if your husband is well off and you are used to living in the lap of luxury?
As I was playing out that scenario in my head, I got a better understanding as to why the trope of a jilted woman-brutally-murdering-Ex-husband is so popular in crime TV shows. I was feeling homicidal just thinking about it! I can easily see her contracting a killer to take out the Ex-husband so she can take over his estate. She would stab him, dismember his body and scatter the pieces in different parts of the country. And then we would all go “what an evil woman!” Really?
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