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Is Your Boyfriend Selfish AF? 7 Signs He’s Putting Himself First

1 months ago, 9 Nov 15:12

By: Cherie Lindiwe

That’s true enough, but be realistic here — it’s one thing if he’s a beer snob or if he never puts his clothes in the hamper, but it’s entirely another if he’s got his head up his own ass and always puts himself first in the relationship. If you think your boyfriend might be a selfish guy, look out for these warning signs:

He never asks about your day or how you’re feeling. I mean, how could he? He’s too busy talking about himself. He has no problem retelling every account of his day, but when you start talking about yours, his eyes glaze over from boredom. He’s not interested and he can’t even fake it. Selfishness at it’s finest.

If his reaction to every single argument/disagreement is to try to de-escalate it as quickly as possible without even solving the issue because he really can’t deal with your feelings, he’s selfish AF.

Every time you fight, you’re always the first one to say sorry to the boyfriend— even if it wasn’t your fault. You apologize for stuff you didn’t even do because you know that’s the only way to end the argument.

There’s nothing wrong with spending quality time alone or with his friends, but he should want to spend time with his girlfriend too. Maybe you’re both busy and your schedules don’t always coincide — that happens, but making time for one another is crucial.

He’s a control freak —  it’s a simple as that. Where you guys go to dinner, what time you leave, who you hang out with, the list goes on and on. Granted, he might not be dressing you but he definitely wants all the power in the relationship.

In bed, it’s all about him! If he wants to try something a little different, he expects you to go along with it. He’s made it abundantly clear that his needs are far more important than yours. Once he’s finished, he’s ready to go straight to sleep.

If you feel like you’re the second place you really shouldn’t have to prove to him that you matter to him. Take time off for yourself, let him chase you and then you can know if you really matter to him or not.


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Is Your Boyfriend Selfish AF? 7 Signs He’s Putting Himself First

1 months ago, 9 Nov 15:12

By: Cherie Lindiwe

That’s true enough, but be realistic here — it’s one thing if he’s a beer snob or if he never puts his clothes in the hamper, but it’s entirely another if he’s got his head up his own ass and always puts himself first in the relationship. If you think your boyfriend might be a selfish guy, look out for these warning signs:

He never asks about your day or how you’re feeling. I mean, how could he? He’s too busy talking about himself. He has no problem retelling every account of his day, but when you start talking about yours, his eyes glaze over from boredom. He’s not interested and he can’t even fake it. Selfishness at it’s finest.

If his reaction to every single argument/disagreement is to try to de-escalate it as quickly as possible without even solving the issue because he really can’t deal with your feelings, he’s selfish AF.

Every time you fight, you’re always the first one to say sorry to the boyfriend— even if it wasn’t your fault. You apologize for stuff you didn’t even do because you know that’s the only way to end the argument.

There’s nothing wrong with spending quality time alone or with his friends, but he should want to spend time with his girlfriend too. Maybe you’re both busy and your schedules don’t always coincide — that happens, but making time for one another is crucial.

He’s a control freak —  it’s a simple as that. Where you guys go to dinner, what time you leave, who you hang out with, the list goes on and on. Granted, he might not be dressing you but he definitely wants all the power in the relationship.

In bed, it’s all about him! If he wants to try something a little different, he expects you to go along with it. He’s made it abundantly clear that his needs are far more important than yours. Once he’s finished, he’s ready to go straight to sleep.

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