@Zumi

Abusive Partners! 6 Sure Signs Your Partner Might Become Abusive - ZUMI

4 months ago, 14 July 00:31

By: Sheila Bennati

Abusive partners don’t wake up one morning and decide to throw a punch your way. There are signs that gradually take place, that women tend to disregard. Before you know it you’re asking yourself, “Why didn’t I see the relationship was abusive at the beginning?” There is no simple formula for predicting future abuse, but there are six warning signs you need to be aware of:

Jealousy is not an uncommon feeling in relationships. There is a big difference between a partner asking, “Did you have fun last night?” and being interrogated when you come home. Questions like “Who were you with? Why didn’t you answer your phone? How many men were there?” signify a pattern of jealousy, paranoid accusations and constant interrogation, all of which are a red flag of future abuse.

All of us have at least one unhealthy or chaotic past relationship. However, if you meet someone who has numerous chaotic/unstable past relationships, that can be a red flag. If you notice a pattern of jobs, friendships and/or marriages that ended with, “She/he/it was crazy, so I left,” be wary.

Many victims of domestic violence agree that their partners didn’t hit them early on. Instead, their partners would use playful aggression as a way to test their reactions while dating. If your partner hugs you to the point of pain or smashes his fist on a wall and laughs when you jump, he is testing your reaction.

Many victims share how their partners don’t have to always use physical violence to keep them terrified. Instead, their partners use intimidation tactics like punching walls, kicking and slamming doors, throwing or breaking things mixed with occasional physical violence to keep them scared.

Some spouses control their partner’s computer use, choice of friends, car use and bank account. If your new partner demands access to all of your social media, restricts you from your friends or family, or wants to know every movement you make, be careful. It may be a test to see how much they can control you in the future.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting his or her own memory, perception, and sanity. People who are abusive will use this technique to leave the victim confused and disoriented.

The most difficult part of predicting future abuse is that many abusive people are very good at hiding their unhealthy behaviours. However, if you are dating someone who starts to exhibit any of these behaviours, leave!


Read More


Category: magazine zumi women love

Suggested

3 hours ago, 14:50
@Zumi - By: Nicole Waireri
Ladies! Here Is A Cool Trick That Will Make Your Braids Last Longer

. Sometimes the itching starts as soon as you get your hair done but there's a hair trick to avoid that annoying discomfort! ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:34
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Bahati And Diana Marua's Baby Heaven Is Out Here Looking Stylish

We have seen Diana Marua and Bahati all over the internet because of various things. But have you seen their adorable daughter, Heaven Bahati? ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:22
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Ladies! Here Are 4 Hats You Need To Look Fly On Your Holiday

Whether you are going to the coast or to the Alps, we have you covered ladies! With hats, you can look stylish while covering your hair. ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:11
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Kagwe Mungai Becomes Brand Ambassador For Aramanda Fashion

Kagwe Mungai is clearly making moves this year! He just got announced as the Aramanda fashion line brand ambassador and we are proud of him. ...

Category: magazine zumi women
5 hours ago, 13:39
@Zumi - By: Philip Etemesi
"I Am Not A Woman Eater", Jowie Writes Letter Addressing Judge

Joseph Irungu alias Jowie has come out to bash Justice James Wakiaga for calling him a woman eater.In a letter to the Judicial Service Commission ...

Category: magazine zumi women
6 hours ago, 12:31
@Zumi - By: Philip Etemesi
Niwacheni! Here's Tedd Josiah's Response To People Asking Him To Remarry

He is tired of hearing it.This past year has been full of pain for Tedd Josiah but he has always found joy in his daughter Jay aka Gummy Bear. ...

Category: magazine zumi women

@Zumi

Abusive Partners! 6 Sure Signs Your Partner Might Become Abusive - ZUMI

4 months ago, 14 July 00:31

By: Sheila Bennati

Abusive partners don’t wake up one morning and decide to throw a punch your way. There are signs that gradually take place, that women tend to disregard. Before you know it you’re asking yourself, “Why didn’t I see the relationship was abusive at the beginning?” There is no simple formula for predicting future abuse, but there are six warning signs you need to be aware of:

Jealousy is not an uncommon feeling in relationships. There is a big difference between a partner asking, “Did you have fun last night?” and being interrogated when you come home. Questions like “Who were you with? Why didn’t you answer your phone? How many men were there?” signify a pattern of jealousy, paranoid accusations and constant interrogation, all of which are a red flag of future abuse.

All of us have at least one unhealthy or chaotic past relationship. However, if you meet someone who has numerous chaotic/unstable past relationships, that can be a red flag. If you notice a pattern of jobs, friendships and/or marriages that ended with, “She/he/it was crazy, so I left,” be wary.

Many victims of domestic violence agree that their partners didn’t hit them early on. Instead, their partners would use playful aggression as a way to test their reactions while dating. If your partner hugs you to the point of pain or smashes his fist on a wall and laughs when you jump, he is testing your reaction.

Many victims share how their partners don’t have to always use physical violence to keep them terrified. Instead, their partners use intimidation tactics like punching walls, kicking and slamming doors, throwing or breaking things mixed with occasional physical violence to keep them scared.

Some spouses control their partner’s computer use, choice of friends, car use and bank account. If your new partner demands access to all of your social media, restricts you from your friends or family, or wants to know every movement you make, be careful. It may be a test to see how much they can control you in the future.

Gaslighting is a form of psychological abuse in which a victim is manipulated into doubting his or her own memory, perception, and sanity. People who are abusive will use this technique to leave the victim confused and disoriented.

The most difficult part of predicting future abuse is that many abusive people are very good at hiding their unhealthy behaviours. However, if you are dating someone who starts to exhibit any of these behaviours, leave!


Read More

Category: magazine zumi women love

Suggested

3 hours ago, 14:50
@Zumi - By: Nicole Waireri
Ladies! Here Is A Cool Trick That Will Make Your Braids Last Longer

. Sometimes the itching starts as soon as you get your hair done but there's a hair trick to avoid that annoying discomfort! ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:34
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Bahati And Diana Marua's Baby Heaven Is Out Here Looking Stylish

We have seen Diana Marua and Bahati all over the internet because of various things. But have you seen their adorable daughter, Heaven Bahati? ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:22
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Ladies! Here Are 4 Hats You Need To Look Fly On Your Holiday

Whether you are going to the coast or to the Alps, we have you covered ladies! With hats, you can look stylish while covering your hair. ...

Category: magazine zumi women
4 hours ago, 14:11
@Zumi - By: Nicole Kirui
Kagwe Mungai Becomes Brand Ambassador For Aramanda Fashion

Kagwe Mungai is clearly making moves this year! He just got announced as the Aramanda fashion line brand ambassador and we are proud of him. ...

Category: magazine zumi women
5 hours ago, 13:39
@Zumi - By: Philip Etemesi
"I Am Not A Woman Eater", Jowie Writes Letter Addressing Judge

Joseph Irungu alias Jowie has come out to bash Justice James Wakiaga for calling him a woman eater.In a letter to the Judicial Service Commission ...

Category: magazine zumi women
6 hours ago, 12:31
@Zumi - By: Philip Etemesi
Niwacheni! Here's Tedd Josiah's Response To People Asking Him To Remarry

He is tired of hearing it.This past year has been full of pain for Tedd Josiah but he has always found joy in his daughter Jay aka Gummy Bear. ...

Category: magazine zumi women
Our App