CITY GIRL: Mr Ndambiri, here are a few tips to help clean up - Nairobi News
8 months ago, 27 Apr 17:20
Today’s column is aimed directly at Kirinyaga deputy governor Mr Peter Ndambiri, who is going through perhaps what is the most difficult time of his life.
Mr Ndambiri, I am sure you have received enough opprobrium to last you a lifetime, so I will not cast another stone like the other angels out here living perfect lives and have never committed any sin.
I am afraid today I am going to offer you some unsolicited advice.
1. The truth: I have listened to you cock and bull winding story where you unsuccessfully attempted to explain yourself. You say that you went to inspect a property that you wanted to buy and a gang of goons rained on you, forced you to undress (next to the poor woman) and filmed you. Well, I don’t believe your story and more than I believe Mike Sonko will fix Nairobi. Your story sounds silly and made up, and it only makes you look ridiculous.
Man up, Mr Ndambiri and admit the painful truth. You got caught cheating, and your downfall was televised. My advice is that you come clean. First of all, you must tell your wife the whole truth and nothing but the truth not for any other reason, but because it is the least you owe her, given the pain and humiliation you have put her through.
Remember, Mr Ndambiri, that the truth is like sunshine, it always comes out.
2. The children: You think you have been humiliated? Think again. Think about what your poor kids must be going through right now. My hunch is that they don’t want to see you right now because they are experiencing a rage towards their father that they thought they would never feel — and with good reason. Your children have probably lost their respect for you, and chances are this tragedy will permanently damage them. But as an optimist, I see some hope.
Allow the tempers to cool off first, then begin to rebuild. For now, protect them by all means. No phones, no television, no computers. Don’t allow them to go through toxic social media or leave them near toxic friends or relatives. Ensure your children maintain a routine, schools are opening next week so let them go to school no matter how difficult that might be. Don’t allow them to sit at home and ruminate over what you have done.
Get counselling for them and I insist that you sit in some of those sessions and answer their many questions. What awaits you Mr Ndambiri is a long and painful journey of rebuilding your relationship with your children, so brace yourself for rejection, resentment, tears, and sulking. I am positive that your family will pull through this and emerge stronger.
3. The wife: This is a tough one. I should be advising her, not you, and sending her a copy of Sun Tzu’s The Art of War, but lucky for you, I don’t have her address.
4. Forgive yourself: To earn the forgiveness of your family and friends is going to ...
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